my husband works nights and today is his day off. He fell asleep on the couch while I was getting dressed. He never likes to nap on his days off because it throws off his schedule. So I walked up and jokingly pulled the blanket out from UNDER his feet (he wasn't even using it). The he threw a fit! He hucked the remote at the TV yelling at me saying ';what's the matter with you I was napping!'; Then he proceeded to make his way to the bedroom and on his way he kicked my 3 month old baby girls bouncy chair across the room and broke it (she was napping in her playpen right beside all this). He continued to make noise into the bedroom and slammed the door. Then he came back out and said ';I'll pull the blankets off of you when you are sleeping in the middle of the night, how would you like it?'; Then slammed the bedroom door again. He is sleeping now and this whole thing scarred the crap out of me. I left him a note saying how he overreacted and I am going to my SIL. He has never touched meHow do you deal husband thows a fit?
For all the times that men accuse women of being over-emotional, some of them have been known to throw their own hissy-fits (my husband included.) I would wait until he is calmed down and tell him, ';You really scared me today.'; See if he says anything to that.How do you deal husband thows a fit?
look, he is an adult - if he chooses to throw off his schedule a bit on a holiday weekend, it wasn't your place to ';joke'; with him and pull the banket out from under his feet. Yes, he may have overreacted to it - but think about who caused it in the first place....you. You should have just left him alone.
You were BOTH wrong in this situation.
I would wait till he called and apoligized, that was way over the top esepcially breaking the baby chair.
Then explain to him that he scared you and that one more time and you are gone.
I tend to wake up grouchy and have chucked things just pillows at my husband in the AMs when he wakes me up. But like I said yours went way over the top, what if the baby had been in the chair. Or you had been hit with the remote.
This could just be an isolated thing but I wouldn't take it more than this one time.
I'm sure he didn't mean any harm by it (besides breaking a chair). It is his day off and I'm sure he just wanted to sleep because he is tired of working. Its not your fault at all. Tell him that he needs to let you know when he doesn't want to be disturbed. Sometimes couples need breaks once in awhile to get away from all of the other things (work). As long as he never hits you or brings harm to your body you should be okay. Stay safe! Bye
tell him how you know he doesnt nap and the blanket was under his feet and he cant act like that with a child involved...but he needs to talk about it...this is not JUST what is bothering him..soemthing else is behind it...
hand him baby's pacifier and walk away, that should get message across
Most definitely I'd wait until things calmed down. Way down!
Then and only then can the two of you have a rational conversation. You mentioned that he never ';touched'; you before. That's a good thing! Question for you? (you should know this by now) does he usually have a short temper? At any rate I wish the 3 of you the best. Communicate, communicate!
He woke up in a bad mood..
Don't let it bother you..
Just ignore it until he calms down and
then tell him that the freightened you....
Wait till tonight and talk to him. Tell him you would not have done it if you had thought for one minute it would of upset him that much. Tell him he scared you to the point you felt the need to leave your home.
Most men hate being disturbed during their sleep.
some epople are just really moody to be woken up...i am...but i must admit he went way over the top there..he must have thought you did it out of spite or something.
as for how to deal with it...i wouldnt say anything to him at all...i would wait and expect an apology..x
He hasn't touched you yet but someday he will. This is just totally ridiculous. He is the one that overreacted. I think there is much more going on here than you pulling the blanket out from under his feet. He is furious with you for some other reason.
1) Does he resent the baby girl?
2) Does he hate his job?
3) Do you have financial problems?
4) Did you two have to get married and he feels trapped?
5) Do you have a job outside the house?
6) Have you been spending a fortune on the baby?
Think about it. Lots more is going on here. The fact that he is going to pull the blankets off you when you are asleep says a lot. He is immature and furious about something.
Im in shock at the advice you've been given. I believe your husband threatened you, and intimidated you. How would he have reacted if another person had done that to you? If a friend or a stranger could not behave that way toward you, and around your child, then why should a man who is supposed to love and respect your more than anyone else? I would suggest each of you talk to someone, together and or seperatly. Perhaps a clergy member or something?
well he may never nap when he has a day off but i guess he changed his mind. he must ahve been tired. well as for his actions he has something going on with him or he wouldnt have acted the way he did. he may have never touched you but there is always a first time. it isnt a good environment for this new baby either. try to talk to him about your little incident if he wont and he gts smart your marraige may be in deep trouble.
Don't make a big deal about it. Next time don't do that to him again. It is very annoying when someone bothers you when you're sleeping peacefully.
I'm sorry but you are both in the wrong. He was wrong for acting like that, and you were wrong for playing around when he was sleeping. Common sense should tell you if the man is sleeping he is obviously tired from working all night. And I don't know anyone who likes to be woken up when they are tired by someone playing around.
I know better then to mess with my husband when he is sleeping, especially his feet. Some people are such sound sleepers and then when they get woken suddenly it puts them in a bad mood. And they are usually not completely awake yet when they act like that.
You need to also write on your note your sorry you woke him up and you weren't trying to do it to annoy him that you were only playing with him and didn't realize he was so tired.
By doing that you will defuse the situation, and he will be more inclined to talk to you about it later and also apologize for what he did. And you may find out he had a really crappy night at work, which is making him grouchy now.
wow... your husband is overreacted, but you got to understand that some people get grumpy when you wake them up. Possibly hes had a long night and hes just tired and just wants some peace and quite. i guess every one has those days.
The guy works NIGHTS..... which means his regular schedule would have put him IN BED at the time you woke him up---he was probably VERY OVER TIRED and his body told him it was HIS time to be sleeping... Maybe he over-reacted, guys do that when they are EXHAUSTED.. give him a break... it's not like it's EASY to go from a day sleeper 6 days a week and then stay up all day on his day off every week....
Make him apologize for his behavior and let him know that what he did with the baby in the room was uncalled for. He endangered her and that you will not put up with it. Let him know that it was only a joke that you were pulling and that you didn't realize that he would blow up. He may be under a lot of stress that you do not know about but that is no excuse for the outburst. If he is genuinely sorry then you can work on other outlets for his stress without upsetting the entire household and it's contents. He needs to learn to deal with his stress without breaking everything in the house. If he doesn't regret what he did then it is time for him to go to anger management classes and for you to think about getting out before it escalates to a more dangerous level.
get out now before he does do something to you or your baby
he has a very short temper that seems to be out of control
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