How to deal with husband's deployment, pregnancy, and no sex?

I love my husband very much. Right before he deployed to the Middle East, he left me with a precious gift. I am now 2 months pregnant and everywhere I read I hear about women having amazing sex drives during their first trimester. It drives me insane and puts me to tears!! This may be TMI, but I've never been able to orgasm (although I've always enjoyed and looked forward to sex). So part of me wonders that I'm missing that opportunity with my husband because he is overseas. Am I the only hormonal woman who grieves over the sexual aspect of pregnancy/deployment at the same time?


DISCLAIMER: I will not view porn, or masturbate, or have sex with anyone else. I am faithful to my husband and do NOT believe in self-gratification. He is the only one who can make me happy.How to deal with husband's deployment, pregnancy, and no sex?
First off, you should ignore all the rude comments. They should have some respect that your husband is willing to sacrifice his life for them and isn't there to be with you. I believe the same as you. My Husband is also overseas and let me tell you, being pregnant and emotional is really tough. You just have to stay strong and keep yourself busy especially when pregnant. Keep your head up, lady.





God bless!How to deal with husband's deployment, pregnancy, and no sex?
I wish I would of had an amazing sex drive in all parts of this pregnancy. I think mine left when I was 9 weeks pregnant ( 33 weeks now ).


With my son, it was raging, all the way through. Now sadly being pregnant with our last baby, I have no interest in intimacy.





So if your not willing to masturbate, then you are pretty much stuck to deal with a lot of sexual frustration. So good luck with that,
i understand what you are saying but all you can do is wait it out and at least he is out there doing good and not running the streets and that's why you aren't able to have sex, for some people the sex is much better when pregnant to me it is the same and towards the end i don't even want it being i am so uncomfortable
As a military wife, I will first off say I know how hard this is. But from experience, the wait will be very much worth it when he gets home.





Maybe you and him could have some ';dirty talk'; via computer or webcam?


I know that kept my hubby and I alive during our deployment while I was pregnant with my first. I know TMI, but masturbation doesn't do anything for me, so we chose this.
Im currently 4 weeks 1day pregnant, and my boyfriend is working out of town for a while, my sex drive is about the same as it was before I conceived, you could always talk to him through e mail or webcam if that works for you. -Congrats! on your baby!
Since you're so close minded, you probably wont ever have an orgasm. Being sexual isnt a dirty thing. You should get to know your body then you could tell your husband what you like. I dont think sex would be any better for you even though you are pregnant.
Wow. How old are you again? Let's see your husbands gone you want sex and will not take care of it yourself for some unknown reason.. so what exactly are you wanting us to do for you?





You have two options.. fix the problem yourself or deal with it. Welcome to the real world kid.
well, if you wont masturbate, your sh*t out of luck. maybe if you masturbated you could figure out how to orgasm. don't be so uptight.
.. ok, there is not much to say!!


most people are going to say masturbate.. but since you already put that you wouldn't!!


there is nothing much to do!


DEAL WITH IT!!!
sounds to me like u need to get to no your body while he is gone so maybe the sex will be better. (not saying go cheat)
Well congrats, first of all. And if you have a sex drive right now, than you are like the only person. Mine is completely gone. My husband has just left for the middle east as well, so Im in the clear of having to even think about sex right now. i have heard that the sex drive will come back closer to the third trimester, but so far nothing for me. I have read that dreams become very vivid, and sometimes sexual as well.





There really isnt anything you can do considering your husband is gone, so i would just occupy your time in other ways, and try not to think about it. The idea of sex while pregnant, personally is just slightly disturbing to me. i could be taking back my words weeks from now when i get really horny, but we will see. So good luck, and if you need to chat about being pregnant and deployment feel free to email me...
Love your body, honestly what do you expect yourself to do if he is overseas? I respect that you are that faithful to your husband but you will just be making yourself upset if you don't want to fix your problem. Everyone masturbates it's no secret or big deal. Does your husband masturbate at all or do you both shy away from self-gratification? If you can talk to him at all via email or on the phone send him dirty messages or just talk dirty to him, you'll get excited but the only way I can think of relieving yourself is by masturbating. Sorry for your situation.
I have no idea where u got your info but from what I've read and heard, most women have no sex-drives in their first trimester (same goes for me..) with all that adjustment, morning sickness, tiredness etc.. They only get it back during their second trimester when their bodies are more settled down with the hormones (yep, me too.. XD)





Since u claimed that you will not self-satisfy, then i doubt there's nothing much u can do at the moment regarding sex..





Concentrate more on your baby then.. Talk with him/her, take better care of your body with your free time, start thinking of baby stuff/lists...etc..





Well, good luck to you and all the best!
I am with you..Even tho my husband is not in the military and lives here with me, our sex life has taken a deep dive. We don't have sex anymore. From him working longer hours, to be afraid to have sex and hurt the baby..We just aren't having sex.


But I am still want to have sex with my husband. I am a christian and do not believe in pleasing myself or using porn. But then again I am about to start my 8th month.





I just dealt with it, there is not much you can really do.


He is probably dealing with the same thing while over there too.