How do I deal with my husband evil ex-wife?

I got married to my husband about a year ago. He was married, and had two kids. After he got a divorice, i got married to him. Yet a more then a year later, his ex-wife huants me. She comes over my house almost everyday. She claims she is picking up the kids. BUt she stays longer then that. I was just wondering if I should bring law into this? But still have somewhat good terms with her.How do I deal with my husband evil ex-wife?
Go back to court and have the decree modified which eliminates her free reign to come and go as she pleases to your home.





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Just tell her that she is no longer allowed to come and go in your house as she pleases. Starting immediately, she needs to call before she comes over and you'll arrange a time for her to pick up the kids.How do I deal with my husband evil ex-wife?
If you're on good terms with her, try talking to her about it, and what it means to give another person ';personal space.'; Or, just give her subtle hints. When she comes over, tell her you need to head out, and act like you're in a big rush. You can be straight and honest with a person without it getting ugly.





If none of that works, and she turns into a real *****, then talk to your husband about it. This is a problem for both of you, and he should be involved.
You do not need to be on good terms or friendly with the ex wife. I would not want an ex wife to be a part of my life and it is not your obligation to let this woman into your home. If she comes to pick up the kids, have her wait on the porch and bring the kids to her and shut the door. End of story, don't let her control the situation, it's your home, it's your husband.
I have gotten along with all x-gf or wives, sit them down and let them know first off you will not take the place of there mother at any time, but they must obide by the rules when they are there with you. Let her see you mean no harm to them and that you will protect them as your own. And when there is a problem talk to both her and your husband so theres no he said she said. And I assure you she will leave you alone, shes just using the kids as a pawn you know just to stay close to what she lost, my mom always said her loss is your gain now shes on your turff.
i had the same problem but with my ex husband finally when i answered the door one day i told him the kids would be right out he could go wait in his truck and closed the door. anytime we need to discuss something to do with the kids we do it by phone. but, should we happen to be in the same place or have to be such as a wedding or graduation we are still civil.
You're going to have to get used to her sniffing about and being in your life. Your'e a step mom to HER kids, she is doing her job by making sure her kids are well cared for, and that also means for some ladies who might be a little scared, dropping by at unexpected times. This sounds a bit extreme of her. The ONLY way to get her to settle down is to befriend her some more, try to have light convo. with her that have nothing to do with kids, husbands, dogs.. etc. and instead, make a pot of coffee, sit down with her and talk about womanly things. It will come out that she's just worried, and she can open up abouther fear. The problem is that there isn't enough communication between you and her about the kids on days that she ISN'T around, so encourage them to give her a phone call when they are with you, or even call her yourself and let her know that sally did a good job on her book report, or ben learned a funny new joke. Just show her you want to be involved at her level.. you both need to work on this without being against eachother. Get used to her being around. If she sees you are interested in working on this with her for the sake of the kids, she will feel a little more calm. Do not try and be a witch, and chase her off with a broom sitck, the last thing you need is a crazy mom on your doorstep. You know what they say, keep your friends close, and your enemies even closer!





Keep your home happy and friendly and toxic free ok! :)
ex wife' %26lt;%26lt; she must not have many friends and she wants you as one of her buddies.


really she shouldnt be coming over to your house anyway. if he cant come and pick up the kids then so be it. then you should be taken them over to his house when he is there. but he cant stand look'n at you and so he is sending her to do this. job. poor kids.
Make friends with her.





My point of view is:


What can you do? (kill her, kidnap?....)


Right?





So the best way to solve this problem is to make friends with her.


By the way, she is like you. This is why you guys chose the same man to marry.


Ask her what really she wants.


Let her spend time with her kids. (They are her kids anyway.)





Solve the problem peacefully.


!-)


God Bless.
Does she stay at your house to talk to you? or your husband? I think that we need more details to really be able to answer this question, but your house is your house and if you don't want her to be there, then make it clear.
You knew what you were getting into. Seeing as she isn't harassing you and only her presence bothers you - make yourself less available when she's over. Suck it up buttercup...
The law LOL ummm what are you going to say?





';My husbands ex is picking up her kids but sitting on my couch';





LOL If your husband doesnt want her there HE will tell her.
Have the kids ready and on the porch waiting for her. Don't let her in your home. She will do what ever you let her so don't let her!