How to deal with my husband and his partner is their new construction business?

My husbands work partner is his best friend. I am their secretary and I am getting to the point of hating my job. His partner only thinks of himself. He is always late, my husband has to get all material together. We went on vacation and his partner had to call every day, and didn't work while we were gone. My husband and I fight over this situation constantly -due to the fact that I feel that he is being taken advantage of and doesn't want to create waves so he just puts up with his partners lack of respect for my husband as well as for me. How do I get over this?How to deal with my husband and his partner is their new construction business?
You need to find a new job and get out of there.How to deal with my husband and his partner is their new construction business?
how new is this biz? is this full time or a weekend hobby? partnerships where one person is dragging the other along like a deadweight anchor never work and you dont know enuf yet about this to find if this is true. are they equal owners? has there already been money put into this? is this super risky? where and how are the profits split? in most areas there are small business organizations that have retired execs who consult for free or a nominal amount and can sort this out. if your husband wont do it, you do it. some guys are not going to go into biz on their own and the partner is sometimes important to them because of the perceived moral support. true. some guys can be in biz for themselves, some absolutely cant, and the slacker partner actually fulfills an important courage function. or this guy may be late but may be doing something else valuable you are not aware of. sometimes these partnerships dissolve when the primary partner feels brave enuf to go it alone. ask your husband if that is the case. you are hardly just the secretary, you are a defacto owner in this biz yourself. go to the bookstore and educate yourself in the biz section about owning your own business. read suzie orman. go with your husband when he sees the accountant. join, yes you, join the local home builders assoc. the more you know the less fear of the unknown there is. owning your own biz can be the key to financial freedom and having the power over your own life is priceless. so, do not fight with your husband, contribute to your business. observe, learn all you can who knows, you may be able to suggest ways to your husband that the partner can do more. and i know that male pride on this board says to shut up and go home. women sometimes see a bigger picture, and are very valuable that way in a biz. so ignore them, and give this time, do all you can do to be a happy positive influence, while you do all the other stuff to contribute. the rewards can be huge.
If you back off and stop pointing out the partner's shortcomings, your husband may be more apt to take


action on his own to remedy the problem. Sometimes,


when we push too hard our guys become defensive and


don't want to admit to themselves, or us for that matter, that


they've made a mistake. Sounds like a hardworking man


like yours needs a partner whose willing to put out the same


effort. Let your guy realize this and deal with it on his own.
The biggest mistake your husband made was bringing his wife into the BUSINESS! Of course you are always going to take you husbands side. You need to understand that this is BUSINESS, not a sewing club so why don't you go home and bake a pie or something and let the men run their own business!
You need to get another job! I've been there, trust me. Sometimes your husband needs to be empowered into making his own decisions. Especially at his job. This is when you need to step away and let him take the lead. Be his secretary. Not his wife.
Is the partner an owner than too? Half owner?





I would suggest that you let your husband handle it. Making comments or trying to get him to see your side of it isn't going to get you very far. You might consider getting another job and hiring someone to do your job there. That way you are removed from the situation.
Tell them you are looking for a new job, cuz you can't handle their childish behavior. It will soon spill over into the business %26amp; you are going to find yourselves bankrupt.
sounds like it would be best if you weren't their secretary and you need to let your hubby deal with it his way. He prob prefers to do most of the work because he knows it will get done. Its a new business so you should expect issues like this.
Stop working for them. Eventually this is going to put a great strain on your marriage and is it really worth it? If you can't separate yourself you may think about buying him out.
if your hubby can make it on his own, dissolve the partnership, and stay in your position. If that isn't possible, you better start looking for a new job, and then, someone to take your place. Most times, the wife isn't the perfect person for an administrative position, too many ties.... Or, you might want to hang on.....doesn't sound like the ';partnership'; between hubby and best friend will last much longer.
let yuor husband handle it.he is his partner and you are just a secretary.worry about secretary stuff like having his coffee ready and keeping tp stocked in the bathroom.
Let your man deal with it, you will just end up getting in the midle of something that is not your deal. If you can't hang and let them work out their own bugs, let them get a new secretary.