How to stop being emotional when dealing with husband?

My husband had an affair and we decided to separate. We have been working on our marriage and we both do try. The only problem is, that when he is around, all I want to do is talk to him about our relationship, what he wants and how we both feel. It is hard to enjoy time with him.





There are days that he says hurtful things to me and I don't know how to deal with him. I end up acting like an inmature girl and either walk out, or kick him out. I tell him that I don't want to be with him any more, when the reality is I do.





I don't know how to be more secure and not have to ask him for little reassurances all the time. For instance, asking when I will see him again, when he will call or come over, etc. How can I stop being so clingy and inmature?How to stop being emotional when dealing with husband?
He cheated on his own wife, the worse thing he could do to you, when he commited that act. You could have been the most beautiful, the most kind or the nicest woman in this world, and it would still cut right through your heart and reduce you to a sniveling insecure girl. Who now believes SHE did something wrong. Get off your knees, you deserve better.


He has you right where he wants you, while he is having a ball.


If he was truely sorry he would be humble and with you right now, with you in his arms, showering you with love and affection.


Love is a choice and he has made the choice not to love you, there are very good men out there with integrity, he is not one of them.


Get over this person or you will grow old prematurely and lose your looks, your personality and your self-respect..How to stop being emotional when dealing with husband?
Do you not love yourself enough? No matter what it takes you leave a man who cheats because he has made a committment to you and had sex with another woman. Unforgiveable and no excuse can justify this. Grow up and be the strong woman you see in the mirror and does not deserve to be treated this way.
Why shouldn't you be emotional about the situation. You have the RIGHT to not trust him, to ask him where he's going, what he's doing, when you are going to see him again. HE is the one that broke your bond of trust, he is the one that should be trying to make it up to you instead of you worrying about how he feels about the way you are acting.





The only way to repair this tear that HE has caused in your relationship is talk about it. Talk about it often, honestly and openly. If he doesn't value you enough to know how very deeply he hurt you. Doesn't love you enough to understand that the two of you need to work it through then I think you need to try and get on with your life.





It will take a very long time for you to get over such a large betrayal, believe me, I speak from experience. It's been 6 years since my husband cheated and there are still times when I question whether or not I trust him....





Listen Hun...you have the right to act the way you are, you have the right to be hurt, mad, freaked out, depressed and all ';immature and clingy';. If he loves you and honestly wants to repair the damage he has done then he would eat nails to prove you can trust him again.
You are not doing anything wrong. It is because you have been hurt so much it has made you so weak and you can't fight the urge to go off. It is not worth you going through this. Look at yourself in the mirror and let yourself know it is really over. he has not learned to except responsibility for what he has done or he would 'nt keep causing you to feel this way. Only you can stop the hurt. You are the only one letting him hurt you now. Walk away and breath awhile start over without him. You will never be happy knowing your trust has been betrayed.
first you have to get all of your feelings out. write him a letter and tell him what he did hurt you in so many ways. then tell him you forgive him and some rules have to be enforced when you meet. like no talking about what happened. no harrassing the other person on where you are where you've been blah blah blah.





why don't you go on a trip and promise to not bring up any of the past while you enjoy his company. couples have to constantly work at the relationship and I'm glad that you're working it out. things will get better. ask for God;s help.
Fact of life girl - 99.999% of all men and women that have an affair while married are prone to repeat the offense again! If they didn't love you enough to stay faithful to you, why would you think that magically they will never do it again? Did you turn into a witch and cast a spell on him to stay faithful? Did God reach down and with divine healing make him into a good and decent man that will forever walk the staright and narrow? Just because you love someone it doesn't mean that they will change for you. They must respect you to love you and quite frankly I can't see that he has shown you proper love or respect. Gain some self respect and leave this loser while you still have any pride left.
He needs to realize that it is a normal reaction to what has happened. Your not the only one who has to work on it, he does too. He basically insults you because it's hard for him to deal with what he does so he is downplaying it in his mind. He is your husband and you have every right to ask him when you will see him. He thinks just being there is enough. Finding out about an affair is traumatic and everyone responds a different way. Society loves to shift the blame on the women... if he had a problem with you or the way you acted he should've have been a responsible man and leave! Once again I recommend this book... helped me a lot!!





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Good luck!





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Its not gonna work in the long run. Get what you need from him but alow yourself some space. If you dont get away than you never will leave. Leave the past in the past but you dont have ot be alone. He still love you but it just not gonna work. Start a little at a time getting away from him and meeting new people. it isnt gonna be easy but you need to have your own life
He had an affair and it seems that you are the 1 doing all the work to make it work. Get marriage counseling and if he won't do that then get help for you so that you will meet a guy that will not cheat and treat you the way you should be treated and loved.
At least you see the issues here and that in itself will help you ivercome the problems. First you may consider giving the guy AND yourself credit for trying to patch things up.





When your together why not talk about more light issues rather than serious dry ones. Talk about the future of your mutual interests outside of your relationship...do things together that are lighter and more fun....then I believe things will tend to mend easier and you AND he will have more faith and trust in yourselves and your relationship.
It's these characteristics (controlling, insecure, needy) that drove him to cheat in the first place. It's really your fault he cheated, you should have been more psychologically mature.