How do you deal with husband that won't stand by you and inlaws?

I've been having issues with my mother in law since basically the first time I met her. (The day before we got married) The mess really hit the fan around Christmas. She's constantly in our business and saying smart behind things to me, and pushing the issue of having a baby on me. Me and hubby agrue about it, he only talked to her once and she stopped for a little while now its gotten even worse! We spent Mothers day apart (he saw his mom and i had my mom with me). She called with an attitude and then asked to speak with my mom and she had even more of an attitude The problem is my husband swears she does no wrong and that its just me! What do I do? I'm frustrated and its causing havic in my marriage!How do you deal with husband that won't stand by you and inlaws?
The best thing to do is YOU talk to you MIL and tell her to please NEVER call you again. The less time you spend with each other the better off you are. Don't vent to your husband about your MIL. Call a friend and vent away. Also, try your very best to not let your MIL get the best of you...she will eventually get the idea and hopefully leave you alone.





Your MIL knows what she is doing. She might be trying to destroy your marriage on purpose. Don't wait for your husband to lay down the law with her...YOU DO IT!!! If you want to save your marriage you tell her....but remember to be respectful because EVERYTHING you say to her she will tell your husband.How do you deal with husband that won't stand by you and inlaws?
Why is it that all the ';problem with mother in law'; posts always involve the daughter in law and never the son in law? You never hear a husband whine about how mean his mother in law is...


Maybe, just maybe this is a daughter in law issue and if you took the pole out of your keyster and didn't take yourselves so seriously the problem would be resolved.


Instead you put your husband in a no win situation with the women that raised him to be the man you loved so much to marry.
There's not much you can do with a man who is too spineless to stand up to his mother. Try talking to him again and don't get into a shouting match. Explain why his mother is a problem and give specific instances. Insist on going to counseling with him, a third party can make it clear to him his mother is out of line more than you can.
I understand that that is his mom but he's not married to her he's married to u and i if cant see that let him go u don't have to deal with things like that but if u walk away from dis relationship she will b the winner at the end
Right on SLIP!!!!! Do you think daugher-in-laws just like to creat drama? I do!!!!!





Good advice!!!!!!!! I couldn't agree more!!!!!!!!!!!





It appears daughter-in-laws expect their mother-in-law's to be perfect. Anything less is not acceptable. Hubbys/sons always end up in the middle.
Your husband needs to be a man and stand up for you. I would sit him down and tell him that ya'll (yes I'm from Texas) need to talk about the situation and that he should be more considerate about your feelings.
well you all go out to dinner and have a nice talk and let it be herd how you guys feel being out some where it wont get out of hand.you can work it out just try it
Either deal with it or get out of the marriage. If your husband will stand next to his mom before you, there is a problem either way. He will not change if he hasn't already.
Been there, done that, I divorced him! The family still talks about me to my daughter! Mother-in-law died last year...


GOOD LUCK if you have kids you are stuck hearing her BLAH BLAH the rest of her or your life SORRY!!!
Sounds like a momma's boy.





You need to tell him you need his support or this marriage will never work...talk to your hubby.
inlaws need to get lost! Your marriage not theirs
leave him
I have had the same problem. You need to look at your husband and tell him if you love me and want this marriage to work then you need to put your foot down. It says in the bible when you marry you leave your life behind and become one with your spouse something like that. He needs to tell him mother to back off and mind her own business. And you need to put your foot down to with her and tell her to back off as much as putting your foot down with your husband and tell him you aren't gonna live your life like this anymore so he has two choice's either tell his mom to back off and be with you or be stuck up his moms *** and leave ya. Good Luck girl, hope things work out. Be strong and remember this is your marriage not your mother in-laws, when yous said I Do it was you and your husband and his mom it was you and your husband...
Your tell your momma's boy husband to cut the apron strings and grow up and be a man, or he can move back in with mommy and you can find yourself a real man to marry. But, why did it take you so long to notice this? What kind of denial were you in before you got married? Now you are marrried and you want your husband to change? ';I love you how you are, now change!'; Come on! You fell in love with a momma's boy, that is what you got. You might have to tell the old battle axe to get out of your business, or you will leave her momm'a boy to her to finish raising.
Invite your mother-in-law to lunch at your home and tell her EVERYTHING that is bothering you. Be polite and respectful. Put a tape recorder in your pocket and record the entire conversation. If everything gets resolved..... burn the tape. If things go south/she lies about the conversation, play the tape for your husband (It's not illegal to tape your own conversation in your own home). Do your best to compromise and try to work things out with her. The worst that could happen is she could be really mean but you'd be able to play the tape for your husband and he'd at least see what you see.





I know it sounds shady, but your marriage is worth fighting for!!! Good luck!

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