Wednesday, August 18, 2010

How do you deal with a husband who lies and tells you everyone lies?

He has told me my children and friends have said things about my personality and they are untrue. These things are said to hurt me and he thinks as a christian, I should just forgive.What do you think of a man who tells such horrible lies that are completely made up? My children and friends have never had conversations with him about any of the subjects period! I do not know of anyone else in my life who has made up such nasty things that others are to have said.How do you deal with a husband who lies and tells you everyone lies?
It sounds as if your husband has a personality disorder. More specific ';narcissism';. They are known to be atrocious and habitual liars. They are passive aggressive and love to cause conflict for others.


They want to control emotions in others, because they lack emotions for others. Do a little research on ';Personality Disorders'; - narcissist, bipolar, and many others. He may need therapy; however, narcissism is really difficult to treat. Therapist have a tough time trying to figure out when they are telling the truth. I am married to a narcissist and have one child with the traits. Neither, feels any remorse when caught in a lie. They play the blame game, it's always someone else's fault.


Don't let this person destroy you, they get worse as they get older.


Get out while you can.How do you deal with a husband who lies and tells you everyone lies?
Think back, there must be a reason you married the guy, unless it was for the children or some other complicated reason. You don't want a guy like that in your life if it's the latter, and if it's the former, I suggest sitting down with him and talking with him. If he's completely unreasonable, try therapy, and if he refuses that, and the lying continues, I would seriously consider divorcing him.
How does a christian think??? You mean like Cardinal Law?? The one that knew the priest were molesting those children and didn't say anything about it to anyone?? Don't use the word christian to try and think you or your husband is better then someone who isn't!!!!!!!! because that is just not true. I hate when people bring religion up in a subject where it doesn't belong!!!!!!! SO come down off your cross and get HUMAN!!!!!!!!!!! Your husband has problems with telling the truth. And I have to say I think you do too!!!!!!!!
He is projecting his own weaknesses on others through making up things about you. Most reasonable people will judge you on your interaction with them and not on what someone else says about you. You are a great person and you know it..and the people who love you know it..and that is what is important
Habitual lying is a form of mental abuse. How long are you going to put up with this? It will only get worse as time goes by. For your sake and the kids, you should consider escape. Believe me, I know all about this.





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I think he feels those negative things toward you and doesn't have the balls to own it, so he pushes it off on other people---and your children. He's an immature fool. Why are you married to such a person?
Well, where there's smoke...there's fire. Most people who know you and are mature will know where the truth lies....other than that, not much can be done.
If he didn't submit to a program of correction (i.e. counseling and accountability) I would divorce him. How can you ever know if he is telling you the truth about things that are even more important?
I think lying is unacceptable and a bad character trait. If he just makes up stories, you'll never know what to believe. good luck
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sounds like he is doing whatever he can to be sure you feel insecure about yourself ......maybe he's afraid you'll leave, and with good reason, who would treat someone they care about like that.
damn sounds like ur husband is just trying to make u mad... dont worry and act like you dont care, and tell im nasty lies that will piss him off.
don't bring Christianity into it if you are going to be negative would you say that if he was a muslem? no, Christians are aways up for ridicule.


If he is making these stories up, get to the root of it, many times a lie has some element of truth to it. They might have agreed with him on some of the subjects %26amp; he exagerated it. Well, talk to him maybe he feels less important to you then they are.

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