How to deal with husband's negative attitude!?

We've been married for 22 years, he's not always been this way. It started from what I can tell about 5 years ago and has gotten worse each year. He complains about every thing from his job to our kids, about me. I Love him dearly, He has provided for our family wonderfully. Our home is payed for, our cars and trucks are payed for, and are in good condishtion. I've lost 35 .lbs. and have ten more to go. We've had a very hard year to get through this last year with our kids and them getting into trouble just like every one else. Any suggesten about dealing with negative attitudes and turn this situation around. This man has a very big heart and would give the shirt off his back if you needed it.How to deal with husband's negative attitude!?
Hi there. It is important to find out whats bothering him and start from there. Sometimes women push it too hard and drive men crazy and the only thing we want is to know whats going on. But they dont see it that way so we need to find a way to find out whats bothering them to fix the problem. We women tend to put more effort in our relationships. Have you talked to him? I am talking about...conversation...not fighting. You need to find out if there is something bothering him or if he is stressed. It may not be your fault or your kids, he may just be stress, is normal in todays society. Sometimes bad attitudes are changed with a good one. My husband was getting a little bit mean to me and i was going crazy. I started to ignore him but it didnt work because my sadness and anger was building up and then I exploted. Then, I decided to talk to him with the best attitude I could have and tell him in a good manner how I felt and how much he was hurting me. All you can do is tell him how all this is making you feel and that you BOTH need to do something about it. Ask him if something is bothering him...but find the right moment. 22 years is a long time and marriage is all about patience. I am sure he is a wonderful person and as all humans...he may be going through something right now...talk to him. Instead of telling him: you are having a bad attitude towards me and the kids..you are different..you are this you are that...start by focusing on him like...are you ok? do you want to talk about something? remember i am here for you. I think you should try that. Good luck!!!!!!!!How to deal with husband's negative attitude!?
you two need to go to counseling or get in a church group, also spend more time together, go out to dinner, exercises to together watch a movie. it don't have to be every night. but maybe 3 times a week.you need to look back when you first got married, bring out your wedding pictures start from their.


marriage is a job it takes two.
Men often feel depressed/upset/etc. when they don't feel like they are fulfilling their purpose in life. Ask him about his passions and what he would love to do with his life, then support him in reaching those goals. Sounds like he's just in a big funk where he's no happy with what he's doing. Maybe your support and understanding towards realigning his life is the perfect remedy.
it's probably because of the kids, he had high expectations only to disappoint him that they are not where he knows they could and should be and everytime he looks at the positive side, disappointment comes, so now instead of positive your looking a negative ------ Maybe
If you've been married 22 years you should be able to ask him what he is unhappy about. He is obviously upset about something. Is he having a midlife crisis?
Why don't both of you take a weekend get a way for him to feel better I know you are probably old but show him the best of you learn how to strip dance and lap dance make him feel 15 again and then make his favorite dinner and feed him like a little boy and just make thing up along as you guy you to are alone foreplay make love alive again and if you can not go away do it at home have the kids go to there friends and have a fun time go for it.
Men need to feel appreciated all the time so try to pay a compliment to him daily, no matter what. Try talking to him about his attitude listen to what he has to say. Also when he does complain, try and show him the possitive side of the situation. If that doesn't work walk away when he starts to complain, maybe he will realize how bad he sounds and stop.