First evaluate why he lost job. If its bad luck then support him and encourage and motivate him to find a better job what he deserves to be.
But he is fired because of his mistakes or carelessness, then ask him to work on his weak area and keep trying for better opportunity.
Very important make him feel that you are always there with him provided he is working towards it rather then getting into depression and ruining his life as well as his family. Becos you will be happy when your husband is happy and feels satisfied.How do you deal with a husband who has lost his job?
I hope your husband found the job???
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Some men take losing a job the same as if you cut off his.... and gave him a sex change. Women just say ';oh well, get another job';, it's different with men. So first you have to understand that and give him support that he needs to get through it and get another job. He'll get back to himself, just help him with his resume and help him get it out. Make sure he knows you aren't going to do like most of the women on here say to and leave him. He's already feeling insecure, don't make it worse. Love and support is what he needs, the blaming comes from lack of that and fear that you are already planning on walking. I'm not justifying it, just letting you know that's how guys think.
I would probably help him find a job... as best as I could.. say I support him.. and hopefully he finds one soon.. as in this day and age you need to incomes to survive
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My wife and I were discussing a friend this morning regarding the same circumstances! Her husband is as lazy as they come! My recommendation would be to send him down the highway! You lose your job you get another one immediately! I don't want to hear how hard it is to find one! If you want to work---there's work!! Every farm in America has lot's of it!Never been out of work a day in my life and I'm almost 53! I don't buy all that phycological crap either. It's a fact of life- get on with the program!!!!!!!!!
it is just going to get worse. you can't help someone who won't help themselves. don't let him drag you down. divorce him and go on with your life.
Tell him ';darling I met this gorgious rich guy and if you don't get another job as soon I 'm affraid i'll have to tell you BYE'; lol kidding... be patient with him not having a job is not that pleasant and he couln't possibly feel like in hevean... Good luck to both of you.
I suppose that it would be best to try your best to be supportive and understanding. I know it can be hard not to react to someone who jumps all over your case for no reason, but try just to call him out on it with a manner of civility. Just because he lost his job doesn't mean he can mistreat you. Try to stay calm and encourage him that things will work out soon. I don't think he needs medical help. Losing a job is hard on anybody! I think that for men it is especially difficult and they often react to it as though they are grieving... because in a way, they are. In time, things should improve. When he finds another job, things will return to a more normal keel.
hope it works out for you
good luck.
Have you ever lost your job before? It is soul destroying. You can feel worthless and pathetic. You can feel like you have let everyone down who is counting on you. Your husband needs to know that you don't think he's a loser right now. He needs support to get through this. Get a grip and help him. He needs to know that he will find another job and that things are going to be all right.
It is very hard to change a person... What I found is that if you tell a person how you feel after they say something that is not true is that You feel depressed when he blames your for so so.. and you hate to feel that way and just walk away..
what usually works, also, if he blames you for something just accept it and laugh and say that you are really sorry.. If you turn it to ironic joke he will quit... he likes playing with your emotions because you let him!!!
If you can take him on vacation to the place where he likes to go... since he lost his job it will cool him and change of scenery is good
My boyfriend lost his job last year. The only thing you can do is push him and keep him motivated to find a new one. If he is constantly bothering you like mine did, just stay away for a while.
HELP HIM .ENCOURAGE HIM .STAND BY HIM.DONT CRITICISE.PRAISE HIM.
If this is your husband, then you promised that you would be there for him through the good times and the bad...sickness and health. So get those ';I'm leaving him'; thoughts out of your head, and find ways to lift him up. Hug him and tell him you love him, ask him what can you do to help him,and sign him up on monster.com. It seems hard right now, but you will get though this too.
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