How to deal with husband's porn addiction and lack of interest in me sexually?

It's been going on througout our whole 5 yr marriage and before that, although he has only stopped initiating sex with me in the last 5 months. I am sure he is not having an affair - I have looked into it a bit. I have tried to initiate intimacy with him but he is only involving himself with me out of politeness. He is not interested. I have even offered to watch porn with him but he is not interested.





I have demanded that he seek professional help or move out. We have two small children and I don't want to raise them alone but I also don't want to put up with a sub standard marriage for my whole life. He says he will stop but won't get prof help. He has stopped so many times before but just went straight back to it.





I don't know what to do.How to deal with husband's porn addiction and lack of interest in me sexually?
i dont really have much to go on here but i will give it a go. Maybe when your husband is watching porn he is thinking it is him giving the pleasure to the woman, the woman in the picture or video will have no known personality to your husband, so she wont have nagged him about unpaid bills or blamed him for something the children have done. Im not saying that its your fault as us fellas all need to be put in line now and again. Maybe try complimenting your husband when he has done something well (not sexually). He needs to see that he is pleasing you in many ways as we are all guilty of taking a loved one for granted. I like yourself am sure he is not having an affair as he is getting his fix from porn. Once you start complimenting your husband on something he has done no matter how small ';the car looks great since you cleaned it'; his self esteem will build back up. Then you can compliment him in the bedroom. He will also see you as someone he can make happy by doing other things unlike the woman in the porn. Us fellas need to know we have a purpose and nothing makes us happier than knowing that we have made our wives happy. good luckHow to deal with husband's porn addiction and lack of interest in me sexually?
Now this is an example of true addiction. He has supplanted normal activities with the porn and is denying that he cannot control it. Stick to your guns sweetie, he will not be able to quit this behavior without professional help. However if he does get the help, the two of you can still have a good and fulfilling marriage.
I think you need to move on. If he gets professional help... don't come right back.. wait until he is working on it for more reasons than merey to get you back. Addiction always damages the entire family - including the children... and if I was willing to expose my children to a father with any addiction... it would NOT be this addiction. Even if the children never actually SEE it - the fallout from this problem is devastating.
Okay making demands is never going to work, it will just make it worse..Have you tried talking to him about what types of porn he likes..so that maybe you can do those things (if you are comfortable) in the bedroom..maybe its time to see a therapist on your own if he doesn't go..then maybe after you have tried everything it's time to move on..its better for your children to live with one parent than to live with two that are miserable together.
It sounds like things won't get better unless he gets help. You deserve a happy healthy sex life with the man you married. Its just as important as any other aspect of your relationship. My husband likes to watch porn just as much as the next man, but nothing is as sexually satisfying as making love to each other.
WTF is wrong with him. He is married and is still watching porn that's ****** up. OK First do some stuff that they do in the porn movie maybe your husband might enjoy that. If that doesn't work then do reverse cycology if i spelled that right. You watch porn and see how your husband likes it if he gets mad then tell him thats the way you fell.
The only way he will be able to stop is if he gets help. I see women on here all of the time who say ';who cares, its just porn. At least he isn't out cheating on me';. Well, this is what happens. It can be very serious. I just don't get the people on YA. Good luck to you.
I have zero interest in porn, but I suspect that it is due to my steady flow of mistresses that I keep on hand.





They also make me miss my wife after a week or two.





I would suggest that approach. It's worked for me for years.
lose some weight and quit nagging - just because he looks at porn he's not addicted, we all do it -





it's gotten to the point that it's easier for him to wax bobo than deal with the stress of dealing with you -
maybe because he found a liking to men, that could explain why he doesnt want to have intercourse with you or just have a look into what he is into and make his fantasy into a reality :)
Implants
look the heck with him come see me i'm single and looking
Trash the porns!
my husband too has a porn addiction. we have a good sex life now but there were times when he shut me off and turned on the porn. its easy to do that w/ porn. it desensitizes people so sometimes they dont want the real thing (hes seen your body so he might get bored--- i dont think its the right thing but im stating what might happen) so he just keeps going at it and doesnt know how to stop. he prob needs proff help. its hard to stay away otherwise. been down that road.


good luck. email me if you have any qwestions.