Monday, August 16, 2010

How can i deal with husbands controlling ex wife when husband refuses to get involved?

my husbands ex uses their son ';tim'; like bait to get what she wants and her jealousy over me is making it very hard for me to develop a relationship with tim.i am not allowed to watch tim if my husband can't his ex is to be called to get him.i am not allowed to have any contact with his school or freinds and the list goes on.tim loves spending time with me and i have never talked bad about his mom infront of him or tryed to be his mom.she is just pissed that we do things as a family and that i'm in what she feels is ';her';place.my husband will not say anything to her as he says it will not do any good i can't control what she does.i think hes just afraid to confront her as he allways accomudates her and never questions anything she does.i understand my husband wants to stay on good turms with his ex for his sons sake but should she be allowed to treat me this way for no good reason and my husband just turns a blind eye to it?should i just let it go?we fight over this all the timeHow can i deal with husbands controlling ex wife when husband refuses to get involved?
these fights you have with your husband will not go away until you fix this problem. You need to talk to him and tell him that if he cares for you that he will hear you out with out getting into a arguement, tell him that tim is your step son, and you love him as if he was your own. you want to be part of his life and have a family with the three of yous, and you understand that there will be another person involved (tims real mom) but she doesnt have to be part of your life just tims. If your husband has custody over his child than it should be in clear writing that you as a step mother has the right to be able to have a relationship with tim and be involved in his life while it be with you husband or without him being there. Talk to a lawyer and see if what you can do, and what your chances are, i am sure that there is a very good chance you will be able to get to see your ';son'; and his mother wont be able to do much about it. You wont have as much say as the mother but at least you will be able to spend time alone with him and start getting a bond with him. If you husband loves you he will finally step up to his ex and tell her how its going to be. If everyone can act like adults than there shouldnt even have to be a court date, and settle it outside, But by the sound of his ex she wont be growing up anytime soon, and wants that controll over you life as well as your husband. Its time to let go of her. The only time she should have any connection with you and your husband is when she is calling to pick up or drop off tim. Thats it!How can i deal with husbands controlling ex wife when husband refuses to get involved?
kick his ***
tell ur ehusband to talk to that b****. she cant do what shes doin to ure family
ignore her

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