How to deal with a husband that wants to swing ?

I have been happily married for the past 9 years now. My husband wants us to join the swing lifestyle. I am a born again christian and know that anything having to do with sex outside a marriage is actually considered a sin. I also know that in the bible it says that you are supposed to submitt to your husband also. I want to do the right thing but I also want to obey god too. I don't want to lose my husband.


Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.How to deal with a husband that wants to swing ?
Wow you seem like you are in a jam. However my advice is to follow your feelings. If you dont want to have sex with anyone but your husband than thats what you should stick with. Yes the Bible says to be submissive to your husband but if he is making you do sinful things like having sex with another man which is considered adultry even if its with your hubby's consent.





Now look at another example. In the Army you have to obey the orders of your superiors such as a Specialist must do what the SGT has ordered to him but if the SGT orders a specialist in doing something that is unlawful or unjust the specialist has the right to deny him.





My advice is to have a long talk with him about this tell him your true feelings. Tell him that you dont feel comfortable going on with the Swing lifestyle. If he leaves you cause you wont go on with this than honestly he does not love you as you have thought he did during that 9 years of marrage. A good husband who truly loves you and respects you will listen closly and tell you that he understands and toss the idea of a swing lifestyle out the window and never bring it up again.





I know you dont want to lose your husband but really think about how you will feel after you witness your man with another woman or a strange guy you never knew before or barely known in the same bed with you doing the things your Husband should only do.





So you think long and hard about how you will feel. Make a decision based off your feelings and your heart.How to deal with a husband that wants to swing ?
There isn't that much love in this world that would make me have sex with strangers and my husband approving of it. I hate that word SUBMITT the only person you are suppose to submit to is yourself.If you do this thing it's because you want to so don't go blaming your husband he just brought the idea up to you. It don't bother you knowing your husband wants to sleep with other women,what kind of love is that in my book it's no love at all your marriage is over.
The marriage contract is one of Obedience and Protection. A man protects his wife. That is his duty. The wife cherishes her children while the husband cherishes his wife. He also cherishes his children. In trade for this protection children are to obey their parents and wives obey their husbands. Swinging is not protection of wife by any means, so wife does not have in this case obey husband wishes.
Hi Lisa.





Listen, you are mistaken about what ';submit unto your Husband, as unto the Lord'; means. Sinning at your husband's request is not submitting, it's SINNING!





If I were you I would give your husband this option: Tell him you are more than happy to spice up your sex life in any way that does not include other people...including swinging, porn and him cheating in any way. Tell him if he makes the choice to cheat that you will be filing for divorce. Lay it all out in loving manner and let him make his choice. THAT is honoring your husband and the Lord at the same time.





If you agree to this alternative lifestyle, you will be sinning against yourself, your husband (even if it's his idea and doesn't care), but most importantly the LORD.





Tread wisely here.





Best wishes
First of all, you should be obedient to your husband! If he loves you enough to share you with another man, and still love you after the other man has had his way with you, then believe it or not, that is a true sign of how much he really loves you. Think about it! Some men commit heinous acts to their wives after they've been intimate with another man, and here your husband loves you so much, that he'll still love you after another man has been inside of you. You will both be happy afterward.
Swinging usually destroys relationships. Its too much for most folks to handle. I've swapped with partners back in my early 20's and it just eventually leads to one or more either hating it so much or like it too much that it usually will mess up the relationship. Both persons have to be very open minded and you do not sound like you are. I think you are guaranteed to doom your relationship if you give in. Think you should try something else to spice things up. Give him some toy shows, do some of your own kinky stuff. He might not really just want to swing, but wants more sexual satisfaction. Satisfaction isn't just from intercourse. Theres nothing that says Christians can't be kinky with their mates.
Why would you lose your husband? Is he that unhappy with your sex life? Tell him ';no';....if he keeps it up....tell him that ';you feel badly for him that your great marriage, will have this ending, but you realize you are no longer enough for him, so you are ready to end it'; Most likely, your marriage won't end, he'll get the message....but it sounds like he is used to ';pestering you';....and you'll give in. Stop him cold. Maybe he just would like your sex life to be spiced up a bit.....so maybe tie him up...get a paddle...and smack his ***....tell him he's been a bad boy for not obeying you...and now he needs to be punished...I seriously think you just need to ';kink it up';....between the 2 of you.
I shall keep it simple.....





Real marriarried people do not swing. A real marriage is two people who stick together with no others and grow over the years together and emotionally. That is real marriage.





No discussion needed. You just tell him NO. Then he can decide what is important to him..... you or this bull puckey.





I have known a few couples who tried the swinging thing. All are divorced and with each it was the same story. After divorce the wife founda guy who would not even think to propose this. And the husbands bemoan the fact that they have no wife because they were stupid enough to even ponder it.





Your husband has no respect for yu as in in the way he should..... a wife is the most precious thing a man can have in his life.... no matter what.
Your right it is a sin. He want to swing then divorce him, take sa much of his money as you can, get a new Christan man and be happy. If he want to be a whore let him. Yes Ephesians say you are to submit to your hubby, however, God gave you a brain to make clear chooses. You do have the responsibility to tell him know no deal. .
not much you can do other than either try to convince him that your religion is right (evangelising is never good though, and you're more likely to lose him than win him over, especially to something like christianity)


or, that your religion is incomplete/inconsistent and make your own decision as to which rule is more important.


good luck.
I hate to say this, but it sounds like your husband is getting tired of you otherwise why would he even suggest swapping partners? This is like cheating on you with your permission. Talk to him about it, and if he brings this up in the future, you might want to file for a divorce. It's either he cheats with you, or without you.
You need to give him an ultimatum, since he has made this grotesque proposal to you; either you remain one on one in the marriage as you vowed on your wedding day, or you get a divorce and take him to the cleaners.
wow...if your husband wants to swing.....he needs to buy him one and swing on it. lol


If he really wants to do this...then he does not want you. When your husband wants to violate Gods laws....all submission is out the window. What if he wanted your help in robbing a bank?? Would you submit to him?
That's a way for him to cheat with your permission. To thine own self be true. Your headed for divorce if you submit as you say. Make a stand for yourself. Go to a counselor yourself
lol yes your marriage is in trouble.. stop telling us lies.





thats his way of being with other women and eating his cake as well.. boy you women are dumb.





he is tired of having sex with only you.. but he dont want to loose you..
Talk to him about it. If he's not willing to change he's not worth it, and not the man for you. Maybe he's not happy w/ his sex life? Try some new ';moves';
I think it would be best to find another man who would love just you because if he is a swinger, then that would show that he also loves other women besides you.
If I wanted a more fun sex life my wife would try hard to give that to me. I would never ask her to swing though. It will end in divorce.
He should know by now that you are not the swing type. Tell him no and stick to your guns. It's a phase....he will get over it.
easy


teh bible doesnt forbid girl and girl only men and men


so try a little female


you dont have to do anything to her just let her do oral on you
STAND BY UR HUSBAND