Insufficient information to give a decent answer but if you are part of the crumbling problem because you want out, what do you care?How to deal with husband being deployed and our marrige is crumbling?
It must be sad for him right now. He's thinking of this in the field and that's dangerous for him and others. I hope the best- that you can resolve this soon. If you're going to leave him, it would be a very unselfish act of you to spare him until he is home.
what you're saying is (combined with whats been going on in your marriage before he found out he was being deployed) and whats going to happen afterwords, when its final. is weighing very heavy on your mind and heart. to the point of fear.sweetie the only thing you can do is to have him sit down and try to discuss seeing a marriage counselor. and suggest to him the possibility of finding a job working in the field of his talent's. or hobbies. ask him if he'd mind, if you took on a part time job to help out, just until he get back on his feet again. or maybe do some daycare in your home. tell him if you work together, you can make it work. if you don't think that reasoning with him is going to work, and you fear for your life or worse. don't wait until you see flames before you yell fire. get out now.
A military wife is the toughest job in all the services. Look, I'm not sure what branch he's in, but the Navy does a Pre-Deployment brief before each deployment. I know that one of the most common things before deployment is for marriages to have some rocky times. The guys are doing their best to pull away so they can focus on their jobs, and the wives are irritable because they don't want to let their loved one go knowing they are going into harm's way.
THIS IS NATURAL. Hang in there. Don't just talk, but really find a way to COMMUNICATE with each other. That will be the key to getting through this.
You need to contact the military for the free counseling they offer. I was recently away from my wife (im navy) for 3 months and she didnt take it too well. My wife spent her time writing to me, calling me, emailing me, and whatever she could do to make sure we didnt fail. If your marriage is failing and hes about to leave..u can use that time apart to reflect on what brought you 2 together initially. My wife was very supportive of me being gone; you made a vow to him and I think you need to stand by your husband despite the crumbling marriage. You 2 need the time apart right now, and a few care packages, letters, emails, and support right now wouldnt hurt him. He needs you right now so do right by your man and by God....after all, you did make vows to the both of them
Speaking from experience, settle the issue now. Stay or go depends on the whys and wherefores BUT settle it now. I suggest a divorce so everyone can start fresh, you now, him when he gets back.
Depends on why your marriage is crumbling. Maybe time apart will be good, maybe not.
Without any further details, that's the best I can say.
You need to give us more information.What are the problems that are destroying your marriage?
I am a fellow military wife, and I don't know how long you have until your hubby deploys, but I know that often things aren't nearly as bad as they seem when the guys are getting ready to leave. A lot of couples start to have a lot of arguments as the time narrows down, and a lot of it has to do with the stress that the couple is under. I am sure that your husband is working a lot, as are you either with kids or a job, or school. If it's not an issue of cheating or lying, then things will settle down while he is gone. You will both realize how much you love and miss each other, and you will realize that it is just the stresses of normal everyday life, and knowing that he is leaving soon, that are wrecking a little mess on your relationship. But trust me...he needs your support more now than ever, don't give up on him and things will get better!
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